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MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL

Devotional for Married couples

POSTED ONAPRIL 15, 2024 BY CHRISTOLOGY
The Island of Self
‘Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.’ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12(NLT)

‘Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God. Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. ‘ Ephesians 4:1-3(NLT)

‘Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses.’ Proverbs 10:12(NLT)

‘Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7(NLT)

I was miserable on my wedding day. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to get married—I did. But the tuxedo shop had given me shoes two sizes too small. The shoes were a bad fit for my feet, but my wife, Lenya, was the perfect fit for my life, just as God intended.

God established marriage to help individuals escape the island of self—that place into which all of us are born and spend a good chunk of our lives. On our individual islands, personal freedom and pleasure reign supreme.

But at some point, something drives us to escape it. Often it’s a romantic connection. We fall in love, and if it’s with the person with whom we want to share our life, we get married. Many of us then go on a honeymoon—a little adventure to some exotic place where we can enjoy a taste of the good life we anticipate with our new spouse.

Unfortunately, when we return, many of us go back to our islands, our old comfort zones populated by all our old defenses, our old schedule, and our old stuff exactly where we like it. This island is built for one person, so it’s tight quarters trying to share it with someone else. It doesn’t take long—a few post-honeymoon weeks, usually—before the piles of socks and constant demands for conversation have you thinking, I chose to share this?

If you’re like I was as a newlywed, you might be thinking, But we love each other. Surely we get a pass on all the friction that’s supposed to come with marriage. Love covers a multitude of sins, right? Well, while love goes a long way when it comes to pressing through the ups and downs of marriage, it doesn’t change the fact that every person on earth is at some point incompatible with every other person on earth. Marriage brings that truth into sharp focus.

So the challenge is clear: How do you learn to live with this person whom you love and have promised to stick by through thick and thin? It’s a lifelong process that requires you to follow God’s design for your relationship, which begins with you and your spouse leaving your separate islands of self and becoming one.

Tip #1: Accentuate the positive. If you and your spouse focus on each other’s faults, you will destroy your marriage. No one is perfect, but you can accept the imperfections in your spouse. Scripture tells us that “love covers all sins” (Proverbs 10:12) and “keeps no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:5, NIV). When you focus on the good things about your spouse, the not-so-good things fade away.

from Keep Calm and Marry On by Skip Heitzig

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Skip to content MARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL Devotional for Married couples POSTED ONAPRIL 15, 2024 BY CHRISTOLOGY The Island of Self ‘Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.’ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12(NLT) ‘Therefore I, a prisoner for serving the Lord, beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God. Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. ‘ Ephesians 4:1-3(NLT) ‘Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses.’ Proverbs 10:12(NLT) ‘Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.’ 1 Corinthians 13:4-7(NLT) I was miserable on my wedding day. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to get married—I did. But the tuxedo shop had given me shoes two sizes too small. The shoes were a bad fit for my feet, but my wife, Lenya, was the perfect fit for my life, just as God intended. God established marriage to help individuals escape the island of self—that place into which all of us are born and spend a good chunk of our lives. On our individual islands, personal freedom and pleasure reign supreme. But at some point, something drives us to escape it. Often it’s a romantic connection. We fall in love, and if it’s with the person with whom we want to share our life, we get married. Many of us then go on a honeymoon—a little adventure to some exotic place where we can enjoy a taste of the good life we anticipate with our new spouse. Unfortunately, when we return, many of us go back to our islands, our old comfort zones populated by all our old defenses, our old schedule, and our old stuff exactly where we like it. This island is built for one person, so it’s tight quarters trying to share it with someone else. It doesn’t take long—a few post-honeymoon weeks, usually—before the piles of socks and constant demands for conversation have you thinking, I chose to share this? If you’re like I was as a newlywed, you might be thinking, But we love each other. Surely we get a pass on all the friction that’s supposed to come with marriage. Love covers a multitude of sins, right? Well, while love goes a long way when it comes to pressing through the ups and downs of marriage, it doesn’t change the fact that every person on earth is at some point incompatible with every other person on earth. Marriage brings that truth into sharp focus. So the challenge is clear: How do you learn to live with this person whom you love and have promised to stick by through thick and thin? It’s a lifelong process that requires you to follow God’s design for your relationship, which begins with you and your spouse leaving your separate islands of self and becoming one. Tip #1: Accentuate the positive. If you and your spouse focus on each other’s faults, you will destroy your marriage. No one is perfect, but you can accept the imperfections in your spouse. Scripture tells us that “love covers all sins” (Proverbs 10:12) and “keeps no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:5, NIV). When you focus on the good things about your spouse, the not-so-good things fade away. from Keep Calm and Marry On by Skip Heitzig CATEGORIESMARRIAGE DEVOTIONAL, UNCATEGORIZED TAGSKEEP CALM AND MARRY ON BY SKIP HEITZIG Post navigation Previous Post PREVIOUS “Value your spouse and realize that you hit the jackpot!” Proudly powered by WordPress

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