Become someone who...
1. Know the bible.
2. Obey his commands.
3. Walk in the spirit.
4. Ask>listen>choose

Ask= someone who is wiser than you what does Gods word say about this but also ask the spirit in prayer.

Listen= listen to the lord in prayer and to those who are wise.

Chooses= choose a choice and own it and realize you might have discerned it wrong and still own it.