Welcome to Biblical Teaching on Marriage, Adultery, Divorce and Remarriage.
The Topics we will be discussing are:
1. Permanence of marriage.
2. Biblical roles of the husband and wife.
— Many do not wish to discuss these biblical principles fearing the push back and criticism they will receive. However, we must fear God and be more concerned for the church and the eternal consequences rejecting these truths will bring. Love will share the truth even when it is not popular or what people want to hear, knowing the true sheep will hear the Master's voice.
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Following are some scriptures that show we should warn and correct so the saints can make righteous judgments in their decisions.
— James 5:19-20. 19 Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, 20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins. 2 Timothy 2:25. In humility, correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth. 2 Timothy 3:16-17. All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. John 7:24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” 1 Corinthians 2:15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. See also Acts 20:31; Galatians 6:1; Ezekiel 3:18; Proverbs 12:1; 2 Timothy 4:2.
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Prayerfully consider these Scriptures and seek the Lord for wisdom to follow His Word. Jesus said He would guide us and lead us into all truth as we live a holy life, acknowledging Him in all our ways. Hebrews 12:14 Pursue peace with all people, and HOLINESS, without which no one will see the Lord. James 1:5-8 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. Proverbs 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
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((1. PERMANENCE OF MARRIAGE.))
The Divine institution of marriage; is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman (Gen. 2:24; Matt.19:5; Mk.10:7), who as husband and wife commit to live in a monogamous relationship for love, procreation and companionship (Prov. 5:18-19; Mal.2:15; 1 Cor. 7:3-5), until death (Matt.19:5-6; Mal.2:14-16; Ro.7: 1-3; 1 Cor. 7:39)
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A marriage is between a man and a woman and must be done according to the local laws of the government in your area and not just a private verbal exchange of marriage vows and calling it a marriage. 1 Peter 2:13 Therefore submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake, whether to the king as supreme.
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1 Corinthians 7:14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
— A Christian is a spiritual covering for their family. This sets them apart for God in a special way until He brings them to repentance in response to the believers faith. This also applies to a first covenant spouse who is believing in God for restoration of a marriage when they were separated or divorced.
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According to Mark 10:28-31, especially verse 30 “...who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time…”Believe God in faith for a hundredfold restoration for your marriage as with God nothing is impossible if we will believe.
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Mark 11:23-24. For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.
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God is faithful and will restore in His perfect time and way what you have asked Him to do based on His Word. Continue to believe your marriage is restored by faith refusing to watch circumstances no matter how bad things may become for He is faithful who promised.
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Matthew 19:9. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
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Matthew 5:31-32. 31 Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce. 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
— Take for example a man (the innocent party) who divorces his wife for impurity, she usually leaves and remarries. Then anyone who marries that divorced woman commits adultery. This woman was put away for committing adultery and now this woman leaves and marries someone else. Now they are both adulterers because her new husband married a woman who was put away for sexual sins.
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Matthew 19:9; Matthew 5:32 gives the one and only reason you could divorce, which is for sexual immorality. This puts an end to the many divorces for unbiblical reasons. Jesus is not saying you must quickly divorce just because you have this biblical reason of sexual immorality that your spouse committed. God’s word shows He desires repentance, forgiveness, counseling, and restoration for marriages damaged by unfaithfulness. Neither is Jesus saying right after a divorce you can marry someone else while your first covenant spouse is still alive. We must take all the scriptures together in the New Testament with what they teach. If a spouse is being abusive, drunk, on drugs, and refuses to repent after talking with them, then you could SEPARATE (not divorce) to show them the seriousness of this sin.
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Matthew 5:27-30. 27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
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Mark 10:11-12. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
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Luke 16:18. “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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Romans 7:1-3. 1 Or do you not know, brethren, for I speak to those who know the law, that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2 FOR THE WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND IS BOUND BY THE LAW TO HER HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE LIVES. BUT IF THE HUSBAND DIES, SHE IS RELEASED FROM THE LAW OF HER HUSBAND. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
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1 Corinthians 7:39. A WIFE IS BOUND BY LAW AS LONG AS HER HUSBAND LIVES; BUT IF HER HUSBAND DIES, SHE IS AT LIBERTY TO BE MARRIED TO WHOM SHE WISHES, ONLY IN THE LORD.
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As mentioned above in Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:3
JESUS’ CALLS RE-MARRIAGE ADULTERY EIGHT TIMES IN THE NEW TESTAMENT.
Marriage is for Life - that is why wedding vows say "until death do us part". The only way God ends marriage is through death. 1 Cor 7:39; Rom 7:1-3.
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Fornication and adultery are two separate sins. If a person repents of a marriage Jesus calls adultery, they can not choose to remain in the sinful marriage union and say they have repented. TO DO SO IS TO CHOOSE TO WALK IN DISOBEDIENCE TO GOD'S WORD. True repentance means a change of mind and heart turning from our old ways to God's.
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ADULTERY IS A MATTER OF SALVATION.
Adulterers will be judged and cannot not enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Adultery is a sin listed with murder, bearing false witness (liars), stealing, coveting, drunkenness, fornication and homosexuality . 1 Cor 6:9-10, Gal 5:19-21, Heb 13:4, Ex 20:14, God hates divorce. Marriage is a covenant and NOT a contract. Divorce is treacherous Mal 2:13-17. Jesus told the woman caught in adultery to "Go and sin no more". Repentance is ceasing to sin. God cannot bless sin. Adultery must be ended and not continued. Without confession and repentance, there is no forgiveness of sin. John 8:11, 1 Jn 1:8-9, Prov 28:13, Acts 3:19, Acts 3:26, Luke 13:3. Scripture alone is authoritative for the faith and practice of the Christian. The Bible is complete, authoritative, and true. Jn 17:17, Heb 4:12, 2 Tim 2:15, Ps 119. And Jesus said to share (witness) with everyone and make disciples by teaching them to obey God's Word. Matt 28:19-20, Acts 1:8.
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Sins of adultery, divorce, abandonment, abuse, incompatibility, an unsaved spouse, or a remarriage does not end a God-joined one flesh marriage covenant. Only death, not divorce, ends a God-joined one flesh marriage covenant. (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:8-9; 1 Corinthians 7:39; Romans 7:2-3; Ephesians 5:31-32).
Death, not divorce, frees a spouse to remarry. If divorce has occurred, the person is to remain unmarried, or be reconciled. The conditions above cannot co-exist with an opposing third option of marrying another spouse.
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God joins the two into one flesh, never to be two again– until the death of one of these spouses.
The innocent third party by marrying a divorced person is guilty of adultery.
Divorcing from a same sex, incestuous, or an adulterous marriage is not sin, but repentance. Unlawful and unscriptural remarriages must be forsaken.
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Are you divorced or separated?
Do not remarry and enter into a new relationship if your previous covenant spouse is still living.
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Single or a Widow?
Do not marry or enter a relationship with someone whose previous covenant spouse is still living; you will be called an adulterer or adulteress! (Luke 16:16; Mark 10:11-12; Romans 7:2-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 39).
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John the Baptist Beheaded Matthew 14:3-12.
John the Baptist was beheaded because he told Herod about his adulterous marriage. John dared to tell Herod Antipas that it was not lawful for him to have his brother Phillip’s wife. Herod divorced his own wife to get married to Herodias, who had divorced her husband (Phillip) in order to marry Herod Antipas. Both of their divorces were legal and then they legally married each other, and yet John the Baptist still told Herod that it wasn’t lawful for him to have his brother Phillip’s wife. The legal procedures they went through didn’t make it right in God's eyes for them to be married to each other—the paperwork did not turn an adulterous relationship into a “God-joined, one-flesh, covenant marriage.” The law Herod & Herodias had broken was God's law of marriage (Gen 2:24). Their original covenant spouses were still living--see Rom 7:2-3). This is why John the Baptist told Herod that it was unlawful for him to have Herodias. Jesus also said that such relationships were unlawful (Luke 16:18) and constituted a state of adultery.
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2 Corinthians 6:14. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
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Also in Mark 10 it refutes the claim that God applies a different marital standard to believers and unbelievers. Verses 2-9: Jesus is speaking to the people he called children of the devil (John 8:44). Mark 10:8-9 And the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Verse 10-12 Jesus follows up privately with the disciples. Mark 10:11-12. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Jesus consistently applied the teachings of marriage to both believers and unbelievers.
— This does not give a reason they are allowed to divorce now because they married while being a believer or unbeliever. Christians are to marry only Christians as the scriptures given above already show but if the marriage is already done it’s a marriage.
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(ADDRESSING THE NEVER MARRIED BEFORE AND WIDOWS)
1 Corinthians 7:8-9. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried (never married before) and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
— Paul is speaking to the never married, widows, and those whose first covenant spouse died.
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(ADDRESSING THE MARRIED, AND ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE)
1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Keep Your Marriage Vows. 10 Now to the married(ANY ONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE) I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
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(ADDRESSING THE REST HE DIDN’T COVER YET)
1 Corinthians 7:12-16. 12 (But to the rest) I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is NOT UNDER BONDAGE in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
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Mentioned above in 1 Corinthians 7:15 “not under bondage” never gives allowance for remarriage, nor is the “bond” dissolved. In order to walk in peace they are allowed to let the spouse go if it is their desire. They need not fight or compel the unbelieving to stay as they are not in bondage to do so. The Greek word used for “bondage” is not the same word used in Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 in regards to the “bond” of marriage which lasted until the death of one of the spouses. If a spouse is going to leave the marriage there is nothing you can do about it. It is not stating that it is God's will to marry someone else now by saying you're not in bondage. As the scriptures previously shown above it’s until death of one of the first covenant spouses that dissolves the marriage.
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Hebrews 13:4. Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but FORNICATORS and ADULTERERS God will judge.
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1 Corinthians 6:9-10. 9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
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Galatians 5:19-21. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: ADULTERY, FORNICATION, UNCLEANNESS, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.
—Sex outside marriage is the sin of fornication. Masturbation, anal and oral sex is the sin of uncleanness.
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James 4:4. ADULTERERS and ADULTERESSES! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
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Sin is not forgiven until you repent of it (ask God for forgiveness for it in Jesus name 1 John 1:9) and stop continuing in the sin. Proverbs 28:13 He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever CONFESSES AND FORSAKES THEM will have mercy.
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POLYGAMY.
The Scriptures insist on the purity of monogamous marriage to be seen in (1) God's blessings on the original pair, Adam and Eve, stressing that they were to be "one flesh" (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:3-6. (2) It was Cain's sinful descendants who introduced polygamy (Gen. 4:16—19). (3) Polygamy, although practiced by some in Old Testament times, is never condoned by God. On the contrary, its evils are dealt with in Exodus 21: 10—11 and Deuteronomy 21:15f., and plural marriages are especially forbidden rulers (Deut. 17:17). Leviticus 18:18 appears to be a clear prohibition against polygamy also. (4) The Scriptures single out polygamy as a primary source of trouble wherever it appears (Gen. 16:5; 30:1; 1 Kgs. 11:1-8).
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There are in some cultures or family arranged marriages where a woman is chosen for the man and SHE WILLINGLY ACCEPTS the man chosen for her, which works for many.
But there are some forced marriages where BOTH SPOUSES ARE NOT WILLING to marry each other but family or others push it on you. That is not marriage as God intended.
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There is only one condition of remarriage and it is when the covenant spouse (first spouse never married before) dies. For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.” Romans 7:2-3.
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((2. BIBLICAL ROLES OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE.))
We see in the Scriptures men are not superior to women and women are not inferior to men. But while God does not discriminate against women, He did make them different, plainly revealing that He intended them to function in different roles and with different responsibilities. They are equal by not equivalent, meaning they have different callings. God created two separate and distinct sexes (equal, but separate and distinct). “Male and female created He them” (Gen. 1:27). Obviously, He intended that they function in two separate and distinct roles.
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1 TIMOTHY 2:11-12. “Let the women learn in silence with all subjection (in religious assemblies). But I suffer not a woman to teach, NOR TO USURP AUTHORITY OVER THE MAN, but to be in silence.”
— Here women are instructed to learn quietly in submission (in religious assemblies), and they are not permitted to teach men or to exercise authority over them. For more on this topic see the post on my Facebook profile timeline called “Women in the Ministry?”. In an assembly of believers and at the right time both women and men can move in gifts of the Holy Spirit as God wills. Women can share dreams, visions, songs, testimonies and prophecy according to 1 Corinthians 14:26-33).
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God designed in the order of His universe that women were to be “an help meet” for the man, not an authoritative figure over the man (Gen. 2:18,20), and she is not the head of the man but he is to be her head (Eph. 5:22-24; 1 Cor. 11:3, 8-9). Violating these clear injunctions from Scripture invariably leads to spiritual deterioration, chaos, and confusion within the church and the home. Nothing functions properly when it is out of Biblical order.
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Paul’s prohibition is linked not to custom or culture, but to the very order of creation!
Continuing from Paul’s prohibition in 1 Timothy 2:11-12, verse 13 explains why the woman is forbidden to teach or hold an authoritative position over men: “For (because) Adam was first formed, then Eve.” The prohibition is because God did not design for a woman to be the head over man, but the opposite. God, in His divine plan, never intended for women to function in roles He delegated to men. Though created equal, each sex was to function in the role God intended. It violated divine order for the women to usurp male authority in churches or homes. Is God unfair to women? Does this prohibition declare male superiority? Absolutely not! No one sex is more important than the other.
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Genesis 2:22-24. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
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Genesis 3:16. To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”
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Ephesians. 5:22-33. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
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1 Peter 3:1-7. 3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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1 Corinthians 7:3-5. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another (intimacy) except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
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1 Timothy 2:9-10. 9 in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
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1 Timothy 3:1-5. 3 This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. 2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; 4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
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1 Timothy 3:12. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
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1 Timothy 5:14. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
— The wife is to help guide the house especially if the husband is not home to help and she keeps the children in line and a keeper of the home.
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Titus 2:1-8. 1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. 6 Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, 7 in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, 8 sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.
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Titus 1:5-9. 5 For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking, and appoint elders in every city as I commanded you— 6 if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. 7 For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, 8 but hospitable, a lover of what is good, sober-minded, just, holy, self-controlled, 9 holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able, by sound doctrine, both to exhort and convict those who contradict.
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Titus 3:2. To speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, ((gentle)), showing all humility to all men.
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Colossians 3:19. Husbands, love your wives and do not be BITTER toward them.
Bitter Definition Strong's #4087. Thayer's.
1. to make bitter. a. to produce a bitter taste in the stomach. 2. to embitter. exasperate. a. render angry, indignant. b. to be embittered, irritated. c. to visit with bitterness, to grieve (deal bitterly with). Strong's. From G4089; to embitter (literally or figuratively): - be (make) bitter. Mounce's. to turn sour, make bitter; to become sour, embittered.
— Never act resentful expressing hard feelings with your spouse, but always give honor and respect to the one God gave you, regardless of how you are treated. Always give your 100% faithfulness not waiting for your spouse to give theirs first. This allows God to work in their hearts when they see your obedience to the Scriptures.
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A husband is the head of the household. A wife is to submit to her husband, treating him as she would the Lord. He has the final say and is responsible if things do not work out because of his final decision. A wise husband will ask and value his wife's opinion then seek the Lord. It's a big responsibility, and he must be careful to make decisions after much prayer and fasting if needs be on important matters. A husband and wife will show love and respect for each other and will never abuse each other, physically or emotionally. A godly wife doesn’t try to be controlling or bossy to her husband nor the husband controlling and bitter to his wife. Both are to be faithful to each other with humbleness of mind. It’s God's divine order. If it’s not in order it’s sin and things are out of control and your prayers can be hindered and attacks of the devil come if in sin.
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1 John 2:4 He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments (New Testament), is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
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John 14:15 If you love Me, keep My (New Testament) Commandments. [Not Moses’].
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1 John 5:3 For this is the love of God, that we keep His (New Testament) commandments. And His (New Testament) commandments are not burdensome.
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Galatians 1:6-10. I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.
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Galatians 4:16. Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?
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The Topics we will be discussing are:
1. Permanence of marriage.
2. Biblical roles of the husband and wife.
— Many do not wish to discuss these biblical principles fearing the push back and criticism they will receive. However, we must fear God and be more concerned for the church and the eternal consequences rejecting these truths will bring. Love will share the truth even when it is not popular or what people want to hear, knowing the true sheep will hear the Master's voice.
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Following are some scriptures that show we should warn and correct so the saints can make righteous judgments in their decisions.
— James 5:19-20. 19 Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, 20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins. 2 Timothy 2:25. In humility, correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth. 2 Timothy 3:16-17. All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. John 7:24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” 1 Corinthians 2:15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. See also Acts 20:31; Galatians 6:1; Ezekiel 3:18; Proverbs 12:1; 2 Timothy 4:2.
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Prayerfully consider these Scriptures and seek the Lord for wisdom to follow His Word. Jesus said He would guide us and lead us into all truth as we live a holy life, acknowledging Him in all our ways. Hebrews 12:14 Pursue peace with all people, and HOLINESS, without which no one will see the Lord. James 1:5-8 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. Proverbs 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
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((1. PERMANENCE OF MARRIAGE.))
The Divine institution of marriage; is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman (Gen. 2:24; Matt.19:5; Mk.10:7), who as husband and wife commit to live in a monogamous relationship for love, procreation and companionship (Prov. 5:18-19; Mal.2:15; 1 Cor. 7:3-5), until death (Matt.19:5-6; Mal.2:14-16; Ro.7: 1-3; 1 Cor. 7:39)
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A marriage is between a man and a woman and must be done according to the local laws of the government in your area and not just a private verbal exchange of marriage vows and calling it a marriage. 1 Peter 2:13 Therefore submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake, whether to the king as supreme.
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1 Corinthians 7:14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
— A Christian is a spiritual covering for their family. This sets them apart for God in a special way until He brings them to repentance in response to the believers faith. This also applies to a first covenant spouse who is believing in God for restoration of a marriage when they were separated or divorced.
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According to Mark 10:28-31, especially verse 30 “...who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time…”Believe God in faith for a hundredfold restoration for your marriage as with God nothing is impossible if we will believe.
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Mark 11:23-24. For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.
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God is faithful and will restore in His perfect time and way what you have asked Him to do based on His Word. Continue to believe your marriage is restored by faith refusing to watch circumstances no matter how bad things may become for He is faithful who promised.
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Matthew 19:9. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
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Matthew 5:31-32. 31 Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce. 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
— Take for example a man (the innocent party) who divorces his wife for impurity, she usually leaves and remarries. Then anyone who marries that divorced woman commits adultery. This woman was put away for committing adultery and now this woman leaves and marries someone else. Now they are both adulterers because her new husband married a woman who was put away for sexual sins.
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Matthew 19:9; Matthew 5:32 gives the one and only reason you could divorce, which is for sexual immorality. This puts an end to the many divorces for unbiblical reasons. Jesus is not saying you must quickly divorce just because you have this biblical reason of sexual immorality that your spouse committed. God’s word shows He desires repentance, forgiveness, counseling, and restoration for marriages damaged by unfaithfulness. Neither is Jesus saying right after a divorce you can marry someone else while your first covenant spouse is still alive. We must take all the scriptures together in the New Testament with what they teach. If a spouse is being abusive, drunk, on drugs, and refuses to repent after talking with them, then you could SEPARATE (not divorce) to show them the seriousness of this sin.
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Matthew 5:27-30. 27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
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Mark 10:11-12. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
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Luke 16:18. “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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Romans 7:1-3. 1 Or do you not know, brethren, for I speak to those who know the law, that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2 FOR THE WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND IS BOUND BY THE LAW TO HER HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE LIVES. BUT IF THE HUSBAND DIES, SHE IS RELEASED FROM THE LAW OF HER HUSBAND. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
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1 Corinthians 7:39. A WIFE IS BOUND BY LAW AS LONG AS HER HUSBAND LIVES; BUT IF HER HUSBAND DIES, SHE IS AT LIBERTY TO BE MARRIED TO WHOM SHE WISHES, ONLY IN THE LORD.
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As mentioned above in Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:3
JESUS’ CALLS RE-MARRIAGE ADULTERY EIGHT TIMES IN THE NEW TESTAMENT.
Marriage is for Life - that is why wedding vows say "until death do us part". The only way God ends marriage is through death. 1 Cor 7:39; Rom 7:1-3.
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Fornication and adultery are two separate sins. If a person repents of a marriage Jesus calls adultery, they can not choose to remain in the sinful marriage union and say they have repented. TO DO SO IS TO CHOOSE TO WALK IN DISOBEDIENCE TO GOD'S WORD. True repentance means a change of mind and heart turning from our old ways to God's.
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ADULTERY IS A MATTER OF SALVATION.
Adulterers will be judged and cannot not enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Adultery is a sin listed with murder, bearing false witness (liars), stealing, coveting, drunkenness, fornication and homosexuality . 1 Cor 6:9-10, Gal 5:19-21, Heb 13:4, Ex 20:14, God hates divorce. Marriage is a covenant and NOT a contract. Divorce is treacherous Mal 2:13-17. Jesus told the woman caught in adultery to "Go and sin no more". Repentance is ceasing to sin. God cannot bless sin. Adultery must be ended and not continued. Without confession and repentance, there is no forgiveness of sin. John 8:11, 1 Jn 1:8-9, Prov 28:13, Acts 3:19, Acts 3:26, Luke 13:3. Scripture alone is authoritative for the faith and practice of the Christian. The Bible is complete, authoritative, and true. Jn 17:17, Heb 4:12, 2 Tim 2:15, Ps 119. And Jesus said to share (witness) with everyone and make disciples by teaching them to obey God's Word. Matt 28:19-20, Acts 1:8.
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Sins of adultery, divorce, abandonment, abuse, incompatibility, an unsaved spouse, or a remarriage does not end a God-joined one flesh marriage covenant. Only death, not divorce, ends a God-joined one flesh marriage covenant. (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:8-9; 1 Corinthians 7:39; Romans 7:2-3; Ephesians 5:31-32).
Death, not divorce, frees a spouse to remarry. If divorce has occurred, the person is to remain unmarried, or be reconciled. The conditions above cannot co-exist with an opposing third option of marrying another spouse.
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God joins the two into one flesh, never to be two again– until the death of one of these spouses.
The innocent third party by marrying a divorced person is guilty of adultery.
Divorcing from a same sex, incestuous, or an adulterous marriage is not sin, but repentance. Unlawful and unscriptural remarriages must be forsaken.
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Are you divorced or separated?
Do not remarry and enter into a new relationship if your previous covenant spouse is still living.
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Single or a Widow?
Do not marry or enter a relationship with someone whose previous covenant spouse is still living; you will be called an adulterer or adulteress! (Luke 16:16; Mark 10:11-12; Romans 7:2-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 39).
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John the Baptist Beheaded Matthew 14:3-12.
John the Baptist was beheaded because he told Herod about his adulterous marriage. John dared to tell Herod Antipas that it was not lawful for him to have his brother Phillip’s wife. Herod divorced his own wife to get married to Herodias, who had divorced her husband (Phillip) in order to marry Herod Antipas. Both of their divorces were legal and then they legally married each other, and yet John the Baptist still told Herod that it wasn’t lawful for him to have his brother Phillip’s wife. The legal procedures they went through didn’t make it right in God's eyes for them to be married to each other—the paperwork did not turn an adulterous relationship into a “God-joined, one-flesh, covenant marriage.” The law Herod & Herodias had broken was God's law of marriage (Gen 2:24). Their original covenant spouses were still living--see Rom 7:2-3). This is why John the Baptist told Herod that it was unlawful for him to have Herodias. Jesus also said that such relationships were unlawful (Luke 16:18) and constituted a state of adultery.
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2 Corinthians 6:14. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
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Also in Mark 10 it refutes the claim that God applies a different marital standard to believers and unbelievers. Verses 2-9: Jesus is speaking to the people he called children of the devil (John 8:44). Mark 10:8-9 And the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Verse 10-12 Jesus follows up privately with the disciples. Mark 10:11-12. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Jesus consistently applied the teachings of marriage to both believers and unbelievers.
— This does not give a reason they are allowed to divorce now because they married while being a believer or unbeliever. Christians are to marry only Christians as the scriptures given above already show but if the marriage is already done it’s a marriage.
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(ADDRESSING THE NEVER MARRIED BEFORE AND WIDOWS)
1 Corinthians 7:8-9. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried (never married before) and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
— Paul is speaking to the never married, widows, and those whose first covenant spouse died.
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(ADDRESSING THE MARRIED, AND ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE)
1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Keep Your Marriage Vows. 10 Now to the married(ANY ONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE) I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
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(ADDRESSING THE REST HE DIDN’T COVER YET)
1 Corinthians 7:12-16. 12 (But to the rest) I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is NOT UNDER BONDAGE in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
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Mentioned above in 1 Corinthians 7:15 “not under bondage” never gives allowance for remarriage, nor is the “bond” dissolved. In order to walk in peace they are allowed to let the spouse go if it is their desire. They need not fight or compel the unbelieving to stay as they are not in bondage to do so. The Greek word used for “bondage” is not the same word used in Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 in regards to the “bond” of marriage which lasted until the death of one of the spouses. If a spouse is going to leave the marriage there is nothing you can do about it. It is not stating that it is God's will to marry someone else now by saying you're not in bondage. As the scriptures previously shown above it’s until death of one of the first covenant spouses that dissolves the marriage.
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Hebrews 13:4. Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but FORNICATORS and ADULTERERS God will judge.
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1 Corinthians 6:9-10. 9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
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Galatians 5:19-21. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: ADULTERY, FORNICATION, UNCLEANNESS, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.
—Sex outside marriage is the sin of fornication. Masturbation, anal and oral sex is the sin of uncleanness.
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James 4:4. ADULTERERS and ADULTERESSES! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
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Sin is not forgiven until you repent of it (ask God for forgiveness for it in Jesus name 1 John 1:9) and stop continuing in the sin. Proverbs 28:13 He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever CONFESSES AND FORSAKES THEM will have mercy.
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POLYGAMY.
The Scriptures insist on the purity of monogamous marriage to be seen in (1) God's blessings on the original pair, Adam and Eve, stressing that they were to be "one flesh" (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:3-6. (2) It was Cain's sinful descendants who introduced polygamy (Gen. 4:16—19). (3) Polygamy, although practiced by some in Old Testament times, is never condoned by God. On the contrary, its evils are dealt with in Exodus 21: 10—11 and Deuteronomy 21:15f., and plural marriages are especially forbidden rulers (Deut. 17:17). Leviticus 18:18 appears to be a clear prohibition against polygamy also. (4) The Scriptures single out polygamy as a primary source of trouble wherever it appears (Gen. 16:5; 30:1; 1 Kgs. 11:1-8).
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There are in some cultures or family arranged marriages where a woman is chosen for the man and SHE WILLINGLY ACCEPTS the man chosen for her, which works for many.
But there are some forced marriages where BOTH SPOUSES ARE NOT WILLING to marry each other but family or others push it on you. That is not marriage as God intended.
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There is only one condition of remarriage and it is when the covenant spouse (first spouse never married before) dies. For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.” Romans 7:2-3.
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((2. BIBLICAL ROLES OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE.))
We see in the Scriptures men are not superior to women and women are not inferior to men. But while God does not discriminate against women, He did make them different, plainly revealing that He intended them to function in different roles and with different responsibilities. They are equal by not equivalent, meaning they have different callings. God created two separate and distinct sexes (equal, but separate and distinct). “Male and female created He them” (Gen. 1:27). Obviously, He intended that they function in two separate and distinct roles.
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1 TIMOTHY 2:11-12. “Let the women learn in silence with all subjection (in religious assemblies). But I suffer not a woman to teach, NOR TO USURP AUTHORITY OVER THE MAN, but to be in silence.”
— Here women are instructed to learn quietly in submission (in religious assemblies), and they are not permitted to teach men or to exercise authority over them. For more on this topic see the post on my Facebook profile timeline called “Women in the Ministry?”. In an assembly of believers and at the right time both women and men can move in gifts of the Holy Spirit as God wills. Women can share dreams, visions, songs, testimonies and prophecy according to 1 Corinthians 14:26-33).
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God designed in the order of His universe that women were to be “an help meet” for the man, not an authoritative figure over the man (Gen. 2:18,20), and she is not the head of the man but he is to be her head (Eph. 5:22-24; 1 Cor. 11:3, 8-9). Violating these clear injunctions from Scripture invariably leads to spiritual deterioration, chaos, and confusion within the church and the home. Nothing functions properly when it is out of Biblical order.
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Paul’s prohibition is linked not to custom or culture, but to the very order of creation!
Continuing from Paul’s prohibition in 1 Timothy 2:11-12, verse 13 explains why the woman is forbidden to teach or hold an authoritative position over men: “For (because) Adam was first formed, then Eve.” The prohibition is because God did not design for a woman to be the head over man, but the opposite. God, in His divine plan, never intended for women to function in roles He delegated to men. Though created equal, each sex was to function in the role God intended. It violated divine order for the women to usurp male authority in churches or homes. Is God unfair to women? Does this prohibition declare male superiority? Absolutely not! No one sex is more important than the other.
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Genesis 2:22-24. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
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Genesis 3:16. To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”
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Ephesians. 5:22-33. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
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1 Peter 3:1-7. 3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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1 Corinthians 7:3-5. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another (intimacy) except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
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1 Timothy 2:9-10. 9 in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
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1 Timothy 3:1-5. 3 This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. 2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; 4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
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1 Timothy 3:12. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
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1 Timothy 5:14. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
— The wife is to help guide the house especially if the husband is not home to help and she keeps the children in line and a keeper of the home.
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Titus 2:1-8. 1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. 6 Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, 7 in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, 8 sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.
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Titus 1:5-9. 5 For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking, and appoint elders in every city as I commanded you— 6 if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. 7 For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, 8 but hospitable, a lover of what is good, sober-minded, just, holy, self-controlled, 9 holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able, by sound doctrine, both to exhort and convict those who contradict.
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Titus 3:2. To speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, ((gentle)), showing all humility to all men.
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Colossians 3:19. Husbands, love your wives and do not be BITTER toward them.
Bitter Definition Strong's #4087. Thayer's.
1. to make bitter. a. to produce a bitter taste in the stomach. 2. to embitter. exasperate. a. render angry, indignant. b. to be embittered, irritated. c. to visit with bitterness, to grieve (deal bitterly with). Strong's. From G4089; to embitter (literally or figuratively): - be (make) bitter. Mounce's. to turn sour, make bitter; to become sour, embittered.
— Never act resentful expressing hard feelings with your spouse, but always give honor and respect to the one God gave you, regardless of how you are treated. Always give your 100% faithfulness not waiting for your spouse to give theirs first. This allows God to work in their hearts when they see your obedience to the Scriptures.
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A husband is the head of the household. A wife is to submit to her husband, treating him as she would the Lord. He has the final say and is responsible if things do not work out because of his final decision. A wise husband will ask and value his wife's opinion then seek the Lord. It's a big responsibility, and he must be careful to make decisions after much prayer and fasting if needs be on important matters. A husband and wife will show love and respect for each other and will never abuse each other, physically or emotionally. A godly wife doesn’t try to be controlling or bossy to her husband nor the husband controlling and bitter to his wife. Both are to be faithful to each other with humbleness of mind. It’s God's divine order. If it’s not in order it’s sin and things are out of control and your prayers can be hindered and attacks of the devil come if in sin.
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1 John 2:4 He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments (New Testament), is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
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John 14:15 If you love Me, keep My (New Testament) Commandments. [Not Moses’].
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1 John 5:3 For this is the love of God, that we keep His (New Testament) commandments. And His (New Testament) commandments are not burdensome.
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Galatians 1:6-10. I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.
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Galatians 4:16. Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?
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❤️ Welcome to Biblical Teaching on Marriage, Adultery, Divorce and Remarriage.
The Topics we will be discussing are:
1. Permanence of marriage.
2. Biblical roles of the husband and wife.
— Many do not wish to discuss these biblical principles fearing the push back and criticism they will receive. However, we must fear God and be more concerned for the church and the eternal consequences rejecting these truths will bring. Love will share the truth even when it is not popular or what people want to hear, knowing the true sheep will hear the Master's voice.
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Following are some scriptures that show we should warn and correct so the saints can make righteous judgments in their decisions.
— James 5:19-20. 19 Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, 20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins. 2 Timothy 2:25. In humility, correcting those who are in opposition, if God perhaps will grant them repentance, so that they may know the truth. 2 Timothy 3:16-17. All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. John 7:24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.” 1 Corinthians 2:15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. See also Acts 20:31; Galatians 6:1; Ezekiel 3:18; Proverbs 12:1; 2 Timothy 4:2.
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Prayerfully consider these Scriptures and seek the Lord for wisdom to follow His Word. Jesus said He would guide us and lead us into all truth as we live a holy life, acknowledging Him in all our ways. Hebrews 12:14 Pursue peace with all people, and HOLINESS, without which no one will see the Lord. James 1:5-8 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. Proverbs 3:6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
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((1. PERMANENCE OF MARRIAGE.))
The Divine institution of marriage; is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman (Gen. 2:24; Matt.19:5; Mk.10:7), who as husband and wife commit to live in a monogamous relationship for love, procreation and companionship (Prov. 5:18-19; Mal.2:15; 1 Cor. 7:3-5), until death (Matt.19:5-6; Mal.2:14-16; Ro.7: 1-3; 1 Cor. 7:39)
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A marriage is between a man and a woman and must be done according to the local laws of the government in your area and not just a private verbal exchange of marriage vows and calling it a marriage. 1 Peter 2:13 Therefore submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake, whether to the king as supreme.
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1 Corinthians 7:14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
— A Christian is a spiritual covering for their family. This sets them apart for God in a special way until He brings them to repentance in response to the believers faith. This also applies to a first covenant spouse who is believing in God for restoration of a marriage when they were separated or divorced.
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According to Mark 10:28-31, especially verse 30 “...who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time…”Believe God in faith for a hundredfold restoration for your marriage as with God nothing is impossible if we will believe.
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Mark 11:23-24. For assuredly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that those things he says will be done, he will have whatever he says. Therefore I say to you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them, and you will have them.
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God is faithful and will restore in His perfect time and way what you have asked Him to do based on His Word. Continue to believe your marriage is restored by faith refusing to watch circumstances no matter how bad things may become for He is faithful who promised.
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Matthew 19:9. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
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Matthew 5:31-32. 31 Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce. 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.
— Take for example a man (the innocent party) who divorces his wife for impurity, she usually leaves and remarries. Then anyone who marries that divorced woman commits adultery. This woman was put away for committing adultery and now this woman leaves and marries someone else. Now they are both adulterers because her new husband married a woman who was put away for sexual sins.
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Matthew 19:9; Matthew 5:32 gives the one and only reason you could divorce, which is for sexual immorality. This puts an end to the many divorces for unbiblical reasons. Jesus is not saying you must quickly divorce just because you have this biblical reason of sexual immorality that your spouse committed. God’s word shows He desires repentance, forgiveness, counseling, and restoration for marriages damaged by unfaithfulness. Neither is Jesus saying right after a divorce you can marry someone else while your first covenant spouse is still alive. We must take all the scriptures together in the New Testament with what they teach. If a spouse is being abusive, drunk, on drugs, and refuses to repent after talking with them, then you could SEPARATE (not divorce) to show them the seriousness of this sin.
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Matthew 5:27-30. 27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
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Mark 10:11-12. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”
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Luke 16:18. “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.
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Romans 7:1-3. 1 Or do you not know, brethren, for I speak to those who know the law, that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2 FOR THE WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND IS BOUND BY THE LAW TO HER HUSBAND AS LONG AS HE LIVES. BUT IF THE HUSBAND DIES, SHE IS RELEASED FROM THE LAW OF HER HUSBAND. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man.
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1 Corinthians 7:39. A WIFE IS BOUND BY LAW AS LONG AS HER HUSBAND LIVES; BUT IF HER HUSBAND DIES, SHE IS AT LIBERTY TO BE MARRIED TO WHOM SHE WISHES, ONLY IN THE LORD.
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As mentioned above in Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18; Romans 7:3
JESUS’ CALLS RE-MARRIAGE ADULTERY EIGHT TIMES IN THE NEW TESTAMENT.
Marriage is for Life - that is why wedding vows say "until death do us part". The only way God ends marriage is through death. 1 Cor 7:39; Rom 7:1-3.
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Fornication and adultery are two separate sins. If a person repents of a marriage Jesus calls adultery, they can not choose to remain in the sinful marriage union and say they have repented. TO DO SO IS TO CHOOSE TO WALK IN DISOBEDIENCE TO GOD'S WORD. True repentance means a change of mind and heart turning from our old ways to God's.
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ADULTERY IS A MATTER OF SALVATION.
Adulterers will be judged and cannot not enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Adultery is a sin listed with murder, bearing false witness (liars), stealing, coveting, drunkenness, fornication and homosexuality . 1 Cor 6:9-10, Gal 5:19-21, Heb 13:4, Ex 20:14, God hates divorce. Marriage is a covenant and NOT a contract. Divorce is treacherous Mal 2:13-17. Jesus told the woman caught in adultery to "Go and sin no more". Repentance is ceasing to sin. God cannot bless sin. Adultery must be ended and not continued. Without confession and repentance, there is no forgiveness of sin. John 8:11, 1 Jn 1:8-9, Prov 28:13, Acts 3:19, Acts 3:26, Luke 13:3. Scripture alone is authoritative for the faith and practice of the Christian. The Bible is complete, authoritative, and true. Jn 17:17, Heb 4:12, 2 Tim 2:15, Ps 119. And Jesus said to share (witness) with everyone and make disciples by teaching them to obey God's Word. Matt 28:19-20, Acts 1:8.
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Sins of adultery, divorce, abandonment, abuse, incompatibility, an unsaved spouse, or a remarriage does not end a God-joined one flesh marriage covenant. Only death, not divorce, ends a God-joined one flesh marriage covenant. (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:8-9; 1 Corinthians 7:39; Romans 7:2-3; Ephesians 5:31-32).
Death, not divorce, frees a spouse to remarry. If divorce has occurred, the person is to remain unmarried, or be reconciled. The conditions above cannot co-exist with an opposing third option of marrying another spouse.
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God joins the two into one flesh, never to be two again– until the death of one of these spouses.
The innocent third party by marrying a divorced person is guilty of adultery.
Divorcing from a same sex, incestuous, or an adulterous marriage is not sin, but repentance. Unlawful and unscriptural remarriages must be forsaken.
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Are you divorced or separated?
Do not remarry and enter into a new relationship if your previous covenant spouse is still living.
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Single or a Widow?
Do not marry or enter a relationship with someone whose previous covenant spouse is still living; you will be called an adulterer or adulteress! (Luke 16:16; Mark 10:11-12; Romans 7:2-3; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, 39).
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John the Baptist Beheaded Matthew 14:3-12.
John the Baptist was beheaded because he told Herod about his adulterous marriage. John dared to tell Herod Antipas that it was not lawful for him to have his brother Phillip’s wife. Herod divorced his own wife to get married to Herodias, who had divorced her husband (Phillip) in order to marry Herod Antipas. Both of their divorces were legal and then they legally married each other, and yet John the Baptist still told Herod that it wasn’t lawful for him to have his brother Phillip’s wife. The legal procedures they went through didn’t make it right in God's eyes for them to be married to each other—the paperwork did not turn an adulterous relationship into a “God-joined, one-flesh, covenant marriage.” The law Herod & Herodias had broken was God's law of marriage (Gen 2:24). Their original covenant spouses were still living--see Rom 7:2-3). This is why John the Baptist told Herod that it was unlawful for him to have Herodias. Jesus also said that such relationships were unlawful (Luke 16:18) and constituted a state of adultery.
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2 Corinthians 6:14. Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
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Also in Mark 10 it refutes the claim that God applies a different marital standard to believers and unbelievers. Verses 2-9: Jesus is speaking to the people he called children of the devil (John 8:44). Mark 10:8-9 And the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” Verse 10-12 Jesus follows up privately with the disciples. Mark 10:11-12. 11 So He said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” Jesus consistently applied the teachings of marriage to both believers and unbelievers.
— This does not give a reason they are allowed to divorce now because they married while being a believer or unbeliever. Christians are to marry only Christians as the scriptures given above already show but if the marriage is already done it’s a marriage.
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(ADDRESSING THE NEVER MARRIED BEFORE AND WIDOWS)
1 Corinthians 7:8-9. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried (never married before) and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
— Paul is speaking to the never married, widows, and those whose first covenant spouse died.
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(ADDRESSING THE MARRIED, AND ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE)
1 Corinthians 7:10-11. Keep Your Marriage Vows. 10 Now to the married(ANY ONE WHO HAS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE) I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
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(ADDRESSING THE REST HE DIDN’T COVER YET)
1 Corinthians 7:12-16. 12 (But to the rest) I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is NOT UNDER BONDAGE in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
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Mentioned above in 1 Corinthians 7:15 “not under bondage” never gives allowance for remarriage, nor is the “bond” dissolved. In order to walk in peace they are allowed to let the spouse go if it is their desire. They need not fight or compel the unbelieving to stay as they are not in bondage to do so. The Greek word used for “bondage” is not the same word used in Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 in regards to the “bond” of marriage which lasted until the death of one of the spouses. If a spouse is going to leave the marriage there is nothing you can do about it. It is not stating that it is God's will to marry someone else now by saying you're not in bondage. As the scriptures previously shown above it’s until death of one of the first covenant spouses that dissolves the marriage.
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Hebrews 13:4. Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but FORNICATORS and ADULTERERS God will judge.
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1 Corinthians 6:9-10. 9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, nor ADULTERERS, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
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Galatians 5:19-21. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: ADULTERY, FORNICATION, UNCLEANNESS, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will NOT inherit the kingdom of God.
—Sex outside marriage is the sin of fornication. Masturbation, anal and oral sex is the sin of uncleanness.
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James 4:4. ADULTERERS and ADULTERESSES! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
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Sin is not forgiven until you repent of it (ask God for forgiveness for it in Jesus name 1 John 1:9) and stop continuing in the sin. Proverbs 28:13 He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever CONFESSES AND FORSAKES THEM will have mercy.
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POLYGAMY.
The Scriptures insist on the purity of monogamous marriage to be seen in (1) God's blessings on the original pair, Adam and Eve, stressing that they were to be "one flesh" (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:3-6. (2) It was Cain's sinful descendants who introduced polygamy (Gen. 4:16—19). (3) Polygamy, although practiced by some in Old Testament times, is never condoned by God. On the contrary, its evils are dealt with in Exodus 21: 10—11 and Deuteronomy 21:15f., and plural marriages are especially forbidden rulers (Deut. 17:17). Leviticus 18:18 appears to be a clear prohibition against polygamy also. (4) The Scriptures single out polygamy as a primary source of trouble wherever it appears (Gen. 16:5; 30:1; 1 Kgs. 11:1-8).
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There are in some cultures or family arranged marriages where a woman is chosen for the man and SHE WILLINGLY ACCEPTS the man chosen for her, which works for many.
But there are some forced marriages where BOTH SPOUSES ARE NOT WILLING to marry each other but family or others push it on you. That is not marriage as God intended.
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There is only one condition of remarriage and it is when the covenant spouse (first spouse never married before) dies. For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.” Romans 7:2-3.
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((2. BIBLICAL ROLES OF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE.))
We see in the Scriptures men are not superior to women and women are not inferior to men. But while God does not discriminate against women, He did make them different, plainly revealing that He intended them to function in different roles and with different responsibilities. They are equal by not equivalent, meaning they have different callings. God created two separate and distinct sexes (equal, but separate and distinct). “Male and female created He them” (Gen. 1:27). Obviously, He intended that they function in two separate and distinct roles.
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1 TIMOTHY 2:11-12. “Let the women learn in silence with all subjection (in religious assemblies). But I suffer not a woman to teach, NOR TO USURP AUTHORITY OVER THE MAN, but to be in silence.”
— Here women are instructed to learn quietly in submission (in religious assemblies), and they are not permitted to teach men or to exercise authority over them. For more on this topic see the post on my Facebook profile timeline called “Women in the Ministry?”. In an assembly of believers and at the right time both women and men can move in gifts of the Holy Spirit as God wills. Women can share dreams, visions, songs, testimonies and prophecy according to 1 Corinthians 14:26-33).
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God designed in the order of His universe that women were to be “an help meet” for the man, not an authoritative figure over the man (Gen. 2:18,20), and she is not the head of the man but he is to be her head (Eph. 5:22-24; 1 Cor. 11:3, 8-9). Violating these clear injunctions from Scripture invariably leads to spiritual deterioration, chaos, and confusion within the church and the home. Nothing functions properly when it is out of Biblical order.
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Paul’s prohibition is linked not to custom or culture, but to the very order of creation!
Continuing from Paul’s prohibition in 1 Timothy 2:11-12, verse 13 explains why the woman is forbidden to teach or hold an authoritative position over men: “For (because) Adam was first formed, then Eve.” The prohibition is because God did not design for a woman to be the head over man, but the opposite. God, in His divine plan, never intended for women to function in roles He delegated to men. Though created equal, each sex was to function in the role God intended. It violated divine order for the women to usurp male authority in churches or homes. Is God unfair to women? Does this prohibition declare male superiority? Absolutely not! No one sex is more important than the other.
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Genesis 2:22-24. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
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Genesis 3:16. To the woman He said: “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children; Your desire shall be for your husband, And he shall rule over you.”
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Ephesians. 5:22-33. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
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1 Peter 3:1-7. 3 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; 2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. 3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. 7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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1 Corinthians 7:3-5. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another (intimacy) except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
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1 Timothy 2:9-10. 9 in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10 but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
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1 Timothy 3:1-5. 3 This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work. 2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; 4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; 5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
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1 Timothy 3:12. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
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1 Timothy 5:14. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
— The wife is to help guide the house especially if the husband is not home to help and she keeps the children in line and a keeper of the home.
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Titus 2:1-8. 1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: 2 that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; 3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. 6 Likewise, exhort the young men to be sober-minded, 7 in all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works; in doctrine showing integrity, reverence, incorruptibility, 8 sound speech that cannot be condemned, that one who is an opponent may be ashamed, having nothing evil to say of you.
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Titus 1:5-9. 5 For this reason I left you in Crete, that you should set in order the things that are lacking, and appoint elders in every city as I commanded you— 6 if a man is blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of dissipation or insubordination. 7 For a bishop must be blameless, as a steward of God, not self-willed, not quick-tempered, not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, 8 but hospitable, a lover of what is good, sober-minded, just, holy, self-controlled, 9 holding fast the faithful word as he has been taught, that he may be able, by sound doctrine, both to exhort and convict those who contradict.
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Titus 3:2. To speak evil of no one, to be peaceable, ((gentle)), showing all humility to all men.
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Colossians 3:19. Husbands, love your wives and do not be BITTER toward them.
Bitter Definition Strong's #4087. Thayer's.
1. to make bitter. a. to produce a bitter taste in the stomach. 2. to embitter. exasperate. a. render angry, indignant. b. to be embittered, irritated. c. to visit with bitterness, to grieve (deal bitterly with). Strong's. From G4089; to embitter (literally or figuratively): - be (make) bitter. Mounce's. to turn sour, make bitter; to become sour, embittered.
— Never act resentful expressing hard feelings with your spouse, but always give honor and respect to the one God gave you, regardless of how you are treated. Always give your 100% faithfulness not waiting for your spouse to give theirs first. This allows God to work in their hearts when they see your obedience to the Scriptures.
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A husband is the head of the household. A wife is to submit to her husband, treating him as she would the Lord. He has the final say and is responsible if things do not work out because of his final decision. A wise husband will ask and value his wife's opinion then seek the Lord. It's a big responsibility, and he must be careful to make decisions after much prayer and fasting if needs be on important matters. A husband and wife will show love and respect for each other and will never abuse each other, physically or emotionally. A godly wife doesn’t try to be controlling or bossy to her husband nor the husband controlling and bitter to his wife. Both are to be faithful to each other with humbleness of mind. It’s God's divine order. If it’s not in order it’s sin and things are out of control and your prayers can be hindered and attacks of the devil come if in sin.
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1 John 2:4 He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments (New Testament), is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
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John 14:15 If you love Me, keep My (New Testament) Commandments. [Not Moses’].
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1 John 5:3 For this is the love of God, that we keep His (New Testament) commandments. And His (New Testament) commandments are not burdensome.
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Galatians 1:6-10. I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel, which is not another; but there are some who trouble you and want to pervert the gospel of Christ. But even if we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel to you than what we have preached to you, let him be accursed. As we have said before, so now I say again, if anyone preaches any other gospel to you than what you have received, let him be accursed. For do I now persuade men, or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ.
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Galatians 4:16. Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?
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Please do not leave your comments on this post that disagrees with these scriptural truths. They will not be read, not answered, but deleted. I will not answer questions in the comments section on this post on these topics. I will not debate or answer questions in private that disagree with these topics clearly given from the scriptures. The word of God is clear and when further wisdom from God is needed we are invited to "ask God in faith nothing wavering.” James 1:5. The promise is we shall receive.
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