Thinking out loud

For a long time, I thought love was just about being the nice one the person who always said yes, stayed quiet to keep the peace, and absorbed everything without a word.

But honestly? ThatтАЩs not sustainable, and itтАЩs definitely not the kind of love described in scripture.

IтАЩve learned that true, Christ-centered love is actually a lot more rugged than that. ItтАЩs not just a soft, fluffy feeling; itтАЩs a disciplined practice.
Here is what IтАЩve realized love really looks like:


ItтАЩs the grace to forgive, but the wisdom to set boundaries.

I used to think keeping no record of wrongs meant I had to ignore bad behavior. I was wrong. Love gives you the grace to move past a mistake, but it also gives you the wisdom to set a boundary so that the same hurt doesn't keep happening. Loving someone doesn't mean letting them trample your peace or your values.

ItтАЩs being kind, not "nice."
Nice is often just a mask we wear because weтАЩre afraid of conflict. But kindness? ThatтАЩs different. Kindness is having the guts to have the hard, honest conversations even when they feel uncomfortable because you care enough about the other person to want them to grow.

ItтАЩs the "Always" that requires work.
When the Bible says love "always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, itтАЩs not saying itтАЩs easy. ItтАЩs saying itтАЩs a commitment. ItтАЩs choosing to show up on the days when the spark is gone, and choosing to believe the best in someone even when theyтАЩre acting like their worst self.

ItтАЩs protecting the house.

You can't pour from an empty cup. Real love requires you to protect your own mental and emotional space so that you have something healthy to offer. Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for a relationship is to step back, pray, and ask for the wisdom to lead with both heart and head.

At the end of the day, itтАЩs just two imperfect humans trying to mirror the way weтАЩve been loved. ItтАЩs not about being perfect; itтАЩs about being consistent.

ItтАЩs deciding that the relationship is worth more than being right, and trusting that if you build it on truth and grace, itтАЩll actually hold up.
#faith #lordsbook
Thinking out loud ЁЯУв For a long time, I thought love was just about being the nice one the person who always said yes, stayed quiet to keep the peace, and absorbed everything without a word. But honestly? ThatтАЩs not sustainable, and itтАЩs definitely not the kind of love described in scripture. ЁЯМ┐ IтАЩve learned that true, Christ-centered love is actually a lot more rugged than that. ItтАЩs not just a soft, fluffy feeling; itтАЩs a disciplined practice. тЪУ Here is what IтАЩve realized love really looks like: ItтАЩs the grace to forgive, but the wisdom to set boundaries. ЁЯЫС I used to think keeping no record of wrongs meant I had to ignore bad behavior. I was wrong. Love gives you the grace to move past a mistake, but it also gives you the wisdom to set a boundary so that the same hurt doesn't keep happening. Loving someone doesn't mean letting them trample your peace or your values. ItтАЩs being kind, not "nice." тЬи Nice is often just a mask we wear because weтАЩre afraid of conflict. But kindness? ThatтАЩs different. Kindness is having the guts to have the hard, honest conversations even when they feel uncomfortable because you care enough about the other person to want them to grow. ItтАЩs the "Always" that requires work. When the Bible says love "always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, itтАЩs not saying itтАЩs easy. ItтАЩs saying itтАЩs a commitment. ItтАЩs choosing to show up on the days when the spark is gone, and choosing to believe the best in someone even when theyтАЩre acting like their worst self. ItтАЩs protecting the house. ЁЯПб You can't pour from an empty cup. Real love requires you to protect your own mental and emotional space so that you have something healthy to offer. Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for a relationship is to step back, pray, and ask for the wisdom to lead with both heart and head. At the end of the day, itтАЩs just two imperfect humans trying to mirror the way weтАЩve been loved. ItтАЩs not about being perfect; itтАЩs about being consistent. ItтАЩs deciding that the relationship is worth more than being right, and trusting that if you build it on truth and grace, itтАЩll actually hold up. ЁЯМОЁЯТл #faith #lordsbook
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