The best thing you can do for your family, for your friends, is to be good to yourself, be kind to yourself, be merciful to yourself, be forgiving of yourself, be loving to yourself. You’re good to others, why aren’t you good to yourself? You don’t criticize your friend, why are you criticizing yourself? You compliment your coworker, when’s the last time you complimented yourself? You admire their talent; why don’t you admire your talent? Start being good to yourself. That’s not being selfish, that’s not arrogant, that’s loving who God made you to be.