I recently counseled a man who was trying to understand why he was raised in such a turbulent home. I knew that he had grown up without those same cruelty patterns. I reminded him about the three men who stood up to King Nebacanazer and was thrown into the fiery furnace. When they came out of that fire, they did not even smell of smoke.
I told this man that he escaped from his fire without the smell of smoke also
Then I reminded him of what the serpent told Adam and Eve, that when they ate they would know all things. Eating only brought on sin, which condemned the whole world. I do not want to know all things. What will happen to this world would scare me to death, so, no thank you.

Rather, he should share his testimony of how God brought him through and that God can also bring you through. Seeing the hand of God in my life should testify what God can do in your situation.

Rather than understand the past, be comforted that God has protected you from things you never saw and never heard because God closed your eyes and ears and spared you.