UNDERSTANDING FORGIVENESS Forgiveness is one of the most talked about, yet most misunderstood, to human experiences. Many people want to forgive, they know they should, but they stay stuck for years because of ideas about forgiveness that were never true in the first place. These false ideas are not harmless. They quietly convince a person that forgiving is impossible, unsafe, or even dishonest, and so the person carries the weight of an old wound long after the offender has moved on with their life. Before we can forgive well, we have to clear the ground. We need to know what forgiveness is not, so that what forgiveness actually is can finally take root. What Forgiveness Is Not. Forgiveness is not condoning the bad behavior, justifying the offense, or "turning the other cheek" as a way of excusing what happened. To forgive someone is not to say, "What you did was okay." It is not writing an excuse for the offender's behavior, and it is not exposing yourself to be hurt again in the name of tolerance. Forgiveness deals with the debt the offense created in your heart. It does not rewrite the moral reality of what happened. You can fully forgive a person and still say plainly, "What you did was wrong. To be continued...! https://whatsapp.com/channel/0029VbC31bW5Ui2PKF0YvW0k/173